James: "You had a mysterious and standoffish presence. James: "The day I said 'I guess that's it' over the phone. James: "My parents' house that weekend in May. We had sex three or four times in a row.
James: "I don't remember exactly. I do think that after each relationship you're better at accommodating the needs of your next partner, though. Judy: "What was your least favorite memory with me? Judy: "Would you say you broke up with me? Judy: "Is what you're looking for in a girlfriend different now that we've dated? Judy: "What do you think was the most intimate moment in our relationship? James: "I was waiting to get picked up for a company ski trip.
Judy: "Favorite sex sesh? I certainly cared enough about you to feel that way someday. I just remember being really sad. And by discussing, I mean pondering over, occasionally pining for, and always, without exception lightly stalking our exes across various social media platforms.
Also, someone I can run with. Judy: "How are you feeling right now? That's why I'd like to talk about my brave friend Judy. I couldn't tell what you thought of me, and I wanted to know more. James: "We could have used more of it. We didn't try to fix it. Judy: "Who would you say put more effort into our relationship?
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James: "Well, when you put it that way Judy: "What is your favorite thing about me, physically? James: [Laughs] "Buying poppers from the sex shop near your place. Judy: "Describe your dream girl. Not at all!
James: "Smart, well-spoken, likes to have long, drawn-out conversations about things and maybe watch a Ted Talk or two. Judy: "Did you see yourself falling in love with me?
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Judy: "Is there any part of you that wants to try dating again? Being far too scared to do it myself, however, I dared Judy to have dinner with her former boyfriend of about nine months and ask him 29 of the most candid, no-holds-barred questions she could think of. Fair warning: It just might inspire you to schedule your own recon mission.
Judy: "What are three things you think we have in common in this moment?
I didn't tell you that at the time — we didn't really know each other all that well yet. James: "I feel fine. And for you, I think you weren't having a great time. Judy: "Can you pick an appetizer off the menu for me? You were having a hard time with work and that's tough on a relationship.
James: "There is always some part of me that longs for you. I've genuinely never seen her flustered — she's just so, so cool. If anything, dating you has probably broadened my 'type. James: "Probably.
I don't want to be here. She'll scale a fence around a private beach and casually write down her on a napkin to be delivered to her bartender. I like that about you. But I think I brought an unwavering foundation to the relationship. In a better or worse way? We talked on the phone, and the gist of it was that my heart wasn't in it. But I liked having you there. I think I was just tired. The challenge was born.
They obviously went unused but that doesn't diminish the intimacy at all Okay, also, the weekend my grandmother died you came out to my parents' house with me. James: "I really liked how I could just wrap my arms entirely around you when we were hugging. Judy: "If you could change one thing about our relationship, what would it be? It was one of those conversations that teetered between whether to invest more and try to fix it or call it quits.
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James: "I don't think people change. James: "We both haven't seen each other since March We're both wondering about how the other feels in this moment.
Technically, the day we called it quits. With roasted mushroom sweet pea puree?
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But, during a particularly moony round of sulking on my partJudy suggested we pick up the phone and dump all of our post-breakup questions on our exes, instead of each other. Too bad for me, I guess. Judy: "Do you think you've changed from our relationship?
No one is proud of it, but sometimes all the unanswered questions that follow a breakup are hard to shake. James: "Okay. Like if I squeezed you hard enough I could consume you entirely. Story from Sex. Judy Kim and Lily di Costanzo.
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Want to come with me? James: "They're all super different. Judy: "How did we break up? To my house? Do you want the crepe?
I started talking to my ex while quarantining and it's been comforting. how do we proceed when the pandemic is over?
Judy: "What initially attracted you to me? Skip ! James: "I wish I could have been more communicative. My friends and I spend more time than I'd like to admit discussing our past relationships. Judy: "What do you think we lacked in our sex life?